Some birth mothers and birth fathers are able to go through the entire pregnancy, birth, and adoption process without difficulty and, in fact, feel a great deal of relief and pride knowing they have
given life to a child and assured the child of having a safe and loving home. However, the majority of birth mothers who are considering adoption do so with some doubt and emotional pain.
A woman who is pregnant is faced with the decision of having to carry the baby to term or to terminate the pregnancy. Then, if she
has carried the baby to term, she will have to raise the child herself, raise the child with the birth father, let family or friends raise the child, place the child in foster care, or place the child for
adoption. Any of these decisions have a life long impact on the birth mother, the birth father, and on the child. And all of the decisions carry with them significant emotion impact.
For some birth mothers the decision to place a child for adoption is reached quickly because it is obvious to her that her emotional, physical, and financial place in life does not allow
her to care for her child in the way she would want. Maybe the birth mother's school or work situation does not lend itself to parenting a child at this time. Or the situation with the birth
father is far from what the birth mother would really like. Or this is an unexpected or unwanted pregnancy. Or the birth mother does not have the financial resources to give
her child what she believes the child needs or deserves. Or, the list could go on and on. Indeed there are very many good reasons for a birth mother and birth father to decide on adoption.
For other birth mothers and birth fathers the decision to place a child for adoption is not reached quickly or easily but only after much soul searching and only after a great deal of emotional
Even after the decision to place the child for adoption has been made, emotional turmoil and depression are common. In many cases it continues through the placement, through the
ending of parental rights, and sometimes for a significant period of time afterward.
It is important to recognize that doubts, concerns, and even depression are common feelings accompanying pregnancy, the birth of a child and the adoption process. Help with these
emotional issues can usually be obtained from the adoption agency the birth mother contacts or from a psychologist
or other mental health care provider.